In many ways, it鈥檚 that last part 鈥 the in-betweens, the struggles, the detours 鈥 that have shaped him the most. We caught up with the 41-year-old on the heels of publishing his third book, Awaiting Identification, to talk about some of the wisdom he's picked up along the way.
1. Get the right day job.
People think because I have three books out I must be rolling in the dough. But the reality is even a lot of big-time authors still teach college because they make so little from their book sales. If you can, find a sweet spot that melds the 鈥渄ay job鈥 and 鈥渄ream鈥 together. For me, it was teaching film in high school. And because film has probably always been my biggest passion, it never feels like something I鈥檓 doing just to support my dream.
2. Get good at rejection.
I tell my students all the time, those who succeed probably failed the most. Every time you send out a manuscript or a script, you can鈥檛 do it fearing failure. I鈥檝e almost developed a gambler鈥檚 mindset about rejection. It鈥檚 like I think that if I just keep trying, eventually it鈥檚 going to work. So each rejection is like a door that closes, but it helps you hone in on the path that鈥檚 still open to you.
3. Good ideas are persistent.
I鈥檓 usually working on multiple things at a time, and at a certain point, I鈥檒l latch onto just one of them. Or it will latch onto me. When it鈥檚 really clicking, there is no struggle; it鈥檚 just like I鈥檓 the vessel for the writing. That鈥檚 when you know you might have something special.
"I tell my students all the time, those who succeed probably failed the most."
4. Put in the work.
I鈥檝e met a lot of people who say they want to write a screenplay or have an idea for a script. But an idea isn鈥檛 really anything until you execute it. A lot of success is simple will power.
5. When not to set your mind to it.
My grandma was very inspirational to me. She worked at Ford, and she really wanted me to be an engineer. She even sent me to these Saturday morning technology classes at Ford, but it was so beyond my interest. On the other hand, I had this 10th grade teacher who saw potential in me as a writer 鈥 so much so that she passed along one of my journals to a friend of hers. Later when I met her friend, she was, like, 鈥淥h, you鈥檙e the writer.鈥 And that just set this spark off in me that changed the way I thought about what I wanted to do. So putting in the work is important to achieve your dreams. But you have to set your mind to something you actually feel moved to do 鈥 not something somebody else said you should do
